One last thanks to the gang of guys who came up with our 2014 poll, and we hope you enjoy reading the results! And we can't forget to say... Happy V-Day!!! :-)
I love a guy that can make me laugh easily but also loves to hold me and kiss me spontaneously. I don't even need a present for Valentine's, I just want to be with that special guy.
For me, one of most important things I look at with a guy is how he treats/interacts with other people - it tells you everything you need to know about him. I personally find it very unattractive when a man's ego takes up the whole room, but at the same time, it's important to have confidence. The kind of guy I've seen master this balance between extremes has a presence about him that I would describe as a gentle strength. Women enjoy men's masculinity, but not when it attempts to dominate them. Also, and this actually makes me very sad- I've heard many guys say something like "Oh, I'm just the good guy," as if that were a bad thing! Guys, own that! I understand it's difficult when society often portrays the "good guy" as "lame", but I guarantee you women find that sort of integrity to be extremely attractive.
I love someone who is going to help me grow in my relationship with God.
More than anything, I'm looking for a guy with good self-awareness, good life balance and a desire for self-improvement. I also appreciate it when a guy is completely invested in the moment/conversation at hand, regardless of who he is interacting with. It's really obvious when he is not!
I feel that the dating culture has become non-existent. Guys are too afraid of being turned down to ask girls on dates. Most women would love to be asked out, and chances are if you ask them they'll give you a chance! We understand that guys aren't perfect, neither are we, but you don't need to be perfect to date someone! So take a chance and ask a girl out, at the very least if she says no you will know where she stands. But most likely she will be flattered that you took the chance and thought to ask her out.
Just be like Pope Francis (except not a priest) and you're golden. Duh.
I have to add that honestly aside from an initial visual impression a guy gives, he's almost like a shell. I don't really "fall" for him until I can fill that "shell" with his personality. That's when he becomes complete and is even more attractive (or less if our personalities don't work out). I think that as long as a guy (or a girl) is himself (or herself) that they will find someone who compliments them. But when you fake it, you end up with a fake relationship.
Taking things slowly is actually very attractive. There is a kind of Christian version of 'if you won't have sex with me I'm not interested' that is 'if you won't express a desire to marry me within weeks of knowing me what's the point?'
This was interesting. Keep up the good work!
The question regarding praying together (#8) is tough to answer in a multiple choice format. I think the amount in which you pray with your significant other fluctuates over time depending on where you are at in your relationship and what one or both of you might be going through. For example, if the relationship is fresh and new, it is especially important to maintain an individual prayer life outside of time spent praying with your significant other. This is when you can truly be open to God's will about being with this person without getting distracted by his or her presence. However, as you become closer and have been dating longer, praying together becomes really important because eventually (God willing) the two of you will be praying for the same intentions that are intertwined with one another. Also, thanks to all you wonderful men who continue to uphold the dignity of women by respecting us and helping us to discover our beauty and dignity!
A guy who is willing to just be himself...who communicates, is up front and respects you and your relationship with God.
Though the gift I love most can't be bought - time together - guys seem to fret about material gifts way more than girls. Not to say we don’t think on it, but we love giving gifts and tend to give them more often. I'd cherish almost anything from my guy, just the thought means so much, and 1 rose is as sweet as 1 dozen! Flipping to girls when it comes to gifts: one friend told me she printed a pic of the exact engagement ring she wanted (after becoming tired of waiting on her bf to ask her hand) and said, "Here - this is the ring I want," and two others conveniently said, "You should see Katie's engagement ring, it's dazzling! ...I found one just like it on Pinterest!" *Hint Hint* I don't think much of either approach; hinting about marriage should start with the guy, just like he should initiate the bf/gf status and say, “I love you” first - he shouldn't feel rushed into something he isn't quite ready for, it doesn't give him space to build the adequate foundation he (and his gf) need to set a solid, natural path for marriage - ultimately, true love is not wanting what is best for yourself, but wanting what is best for your love (him).
He shows me how it is to sacrifice for love, to give with happiness, and for it to never be enough.
Well, as a married woman I can't tell you what I look for in a man.. Because I stopped looking six years ago. What I can say however is that my husband and I have been married almost two years, and it feels like yesterday that he asked me out for the first time. One of my favorite things about my husband is that he is my complete opposite. I freak out, he is calm and collected. I'm frustrated and angry, he lets me vent and helps me get over it. I like order, he helps me realize a little mess isn't the end of the world. My husband is my perfect man, we grow together, we still date each other, and we make it a point to grow together in our faith. So to sum it up, my perfect man isn't defined by his smile or his eyes - it's the fact that he knows me inside and out and ultimately wants to "get me to heaven" which he tells me all the time.
I know not to date someone who says his ex was either clingy, crazy, ditsy, moody, bitchy ext... because a. he was initially attracted to them like he appears to be attracted to me and b. if it didn't work out I wouldn't want labels like such slapped on me. How someone speaks of their ex can reveal their knowledge of self, judge of character and ability to personally reflect and take responsibility.
I wish question #7 had a write-in for "confident."
For me, the most important thing is that the guy inspires me and holds me accountable and that I can do the same for him. When these are in balance, I believe that a healthy relationship can form in which both people propel each other on the exciting and adventurous road to betterness (and ultimately heaven). :-)